Articles
On Partners Who Dislike Sex Work
As a longtime public stripper, I often receive contact from other women in the adult industries who are navigating dating and sex work and experiencing jealousy from their partners. What follows is two examples of folks who recently wrote to me and feeling unsupported and invalidated by their boyfriends. Question 1) My boyfriend went to… Read More
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JLo’s Super Bowl Pole Dance Was Cringeworthy To Many Real Strippers. Here’s Why. – HuffPOST
In case you missed it: Actor, singer and celebrity Jennifer Lopez briefly performed a beginner’s pole dance during Sunday’s Super Bowl halftime show, when she ascended fairly gracefully upon a slowly spinning pole, and then held two poses while lip-syncing. While many viewers and members of the media were impressed by the 50-year old entertainer,… Read More
Articles, Education
Sex and Disability: Resources for physically disabled folks – Confluence Daily
I am a regular sex education contributor to Confluence but was woefully unprepared to discuss the topic due to my own lack of knowledge or experience as an able-bodied person, and thusly I outsourced for this inquiry. I’d like to thank Katherine Harlow for writing the following and sharing these resources, you can contact her… Read More
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I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone.
Q: I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone. It makes me uncomfortable to orgasm with my boyfriend. Like, totally out of control for my body and it makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable even though I feel 100% comfortable with him. Is that normal?… Read More
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How To Be A Good Patron At A Strip Club For $50 Or Less
Q: One of my friends recently started dancing at the local strip club and asked me to come out and see and support her with tips and a friendly face. I really want to! I just don’t have a ton of money and don’t want to waste anyone’s time. Are there things I can do… Read More
Articles
My Breast Implant Ruptured, But It Took A Long Time To Realize
Approximately 300,000 people in the United States got breast implants last year. I experienced a silicone implant rupture within five years of my postpartum augmentation, and it was costly and stressful. Many other women have had similar experiences, which they have shared under the hashtags #BreastImplantIllness or #BII. On July 24, 2019, Allergen, a… Read More
Articles, Interviews
Strippers Are Doing It for Themselves – New York Times
An industry organizes against decades of exploitation. “Our audiences in the last 10 years, specific to my home club, have become more diverse, younger, more gender broad,” said Elle Stanger, 32, who has worked as a stripper for a decade and lives in Portland. “It’s not just middle-aged white men anymore.” Read the full… Read More
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My Boyfriend Wants To Try Rape Fantasty Play—I’m A Sexual Assault Survivor
Q: My boyfriend as recently expressed an interest in fantasy play. At first, I was into it. We had a lot of fun making up scenarios and playing them out. I will totally admit it spiced things up between us in a very good way. However, recently he has suggested more violent type fantasies including… Read More
Articles
My Boyfriend’s Best Friend Just Started Dating A Woman Who Openly Calls Herself A Swinger And It Makes Me Nervous
Q: My boyfriend’s best friend just started dating a woman who openly calls herself a swinger. He seems very happy, in fact, happier than I’ve ever seen him in a relationship. He’s mentioned some things that make me believe they are exploring the “swinger” lifestyle together. It makes me very uncomfortable. I think it’s a… Read More
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My Fiancé Wants Me To Try Being A “Cam Girl.” I’m Not So Sure
Q: My fiance and I have used porn as a way of enhancing our sex life for several months and I enjoy doing that with him. I know some won’t agree, but it’s felt very intimate and I know our sex life feels hotter with some cinematic inspiration at times. Recently we were having a… Read More
