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The New York Post Outed A Paramedic As A Sex Worker. Here’s What They Didn’t Tell You.
Women get harassed, stalked, even targeted for assault and murder when people question their sexual morality in a public and shaming manner. Last week, the New York Post published a piece called “NYC Medic Helped ‘Make Ends Meet’ With Racy OnlyFans Side Gig.” The teaser line read, “A young NYC paramedic says she is so… Read More
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Sex Education Saves Lives And Reduces Harm
Hey you, let’s learn about sex. Here are some fast fun facts to test your knowledge: Did you know that masturbation prevents prostate cancer for males? It’s true! Did you know that most people with vaginas will experience at least one yeast infection a lifetime? It is true! (I get them every summer). Did you… Read More
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Political Differences in Romantic Relationships
Q: I don’t feel okay with my partner lately, and we argue whenever we try to talk politics. He does not understand the riots, the Black Lives Matter movement, the troubles with Trump, or my feeling of being turned off sexually because of the constant arguments we have about these things. I love this man and… Read More
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Since the COVID 19 crisis started, my sex drive has been so low
Q: Since the COVID 19 crisis started, my sex drive has been so low. I want the connection but I don’t have the libido I did. How can my partner and I find intimacy and sexual connection when I just don’t want to have sex like I used to? A: Stress is one of the biggest… Read More
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I’m A Parent Making Porn To Make Ends Meet During Covid Quarantine
For some of us, porn-making and digital work are our only real option to provide for our families right now. I have been a stripper for the last 11 years, one who merely dabbled in webcam and porn-making ― until, that is, coronavirus quarantines and shutdowns closed Oregon clubs as of March 16, eliminating… Read More
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Support Your Local Sex Worker
In the midst of this COVID pandemic and worldwide lockdowns, more of us are staying home and keeping company with our cells, laptops, and tv screens. Which means more porn watching and digital hookups. In this springtime of social distancing, even mainstream media sex-education experts began recommending folks to masturbate and engage in online and… Read More
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On Partners Who Dislike Sex Work
As a longtime public stripper, I often receive contact from other women in the adult industries who are navigating dating and sex work and experiencing jealousy from their partners. What follows is two examples of folks who recently wrote to me and feeling unsupported and invalidated by their boyfriends. Question 1) My boyfriend went to… Read More
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JLo’s Super Bowl Pole Dance Was Cringeworthy To Many Real Strippers. Here’s Why. – HuffPOST
In case you missed it: Actor, singer and celebrity Jennifer Lopez briefly performed a beginner’s pole dance during Sunday’s Super Bowl halftime show, when she ascended fairly gracefully upon a slowly spinning pole, and then held two poses while lip-syncing. While many viewers and members of the media were impressed by the 50-year old entertainer,… Read More
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Sex and Disability: Resources for physically disabled folks – Confluence Daily
I am a regular sex education contributor to Confluence but was woefully unprepared to discuss the topic due to my own lack of knowledge or experience as an able-bodied person, and thusly I outsourced for this inquiry. I’d like to thank Katherine Harlow for writing the following and sharing these resources, you can contact her… Read More
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I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone.
Q: I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone. It makes me uncomfortable to orgasm with my boyfriend. Like, totally out of control for my body and it makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable even though I feel 100% comfortable with him. Is that normal?… Read More
