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Breaking the Cycle Podcast – Episode #16
I joined Lavender of Breaking the Cycle Podcast, to talk about Sex work, trauma, gender identity and pronouns, religion, group therapy, parenthood, privilege and lived experiences. Lavender is a 21yr old first generation Jamaican American, and we have some very similar and different expectations of us, from our families. Listen HERE … Read More
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I’m A Parent Making Porn To Make Ends Meet During Covid Quarantine
For some of us, porn-making and digital work are our only real option to provide for our families right now. I have been a stripper for the last 11 years, one who merely dabbled in webcam and porn-making ― until, that is, coronavirus quarantines and shutdowns closed Oregon clubs as of March 16, eliminating… Read More
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How Do We Talk to Our Teen Daughter About Sex Without Condoning Her Being Sexually Active?
Q: My daughter is 14 and I’m very suspicious she is sexually active. Her father and I do not think she’s ready for the responsibility that comes along with the decisions s she’s making. While we do not agree, I want to be able to have conservations with her about sex that help her navigate… Read More
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Our Pre-Teen Daughter Stumbled Upon Our Porn
Q: My preteen daughter stumbled upon my porn, my wife and I found various screens open on our computer that was all kinds of queer gang bang stuff, we haven’t told her that we know she found it, and she recently started asking me questions about how men and women have sex. I’m mortified and… Read More
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How I Will Talk To My Daughter About Sex
My dear child, I want you to have a better sex life than I did. I want your puberty to be less distressing than mine was. I want your first partnered sexual experiences to be pleasurable. I want your body to be a temple of nice touches and healthy foods. I want you to get… Read More
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Actually, Talking About Porn With Your Kids Is Easy & Crucial
The first time I saw porn was in my parent’s bathroom. My dad kept Playboy and Hustler in a neat stack next to the toilet, secured by an ashtray that never moved. The ashtray to me symbolized a padlock — it was understood that we were not to touch the ashtray, not to lift it… Read More
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The 6-Week Green Light On Sex After Having A Baby Is A Bunch Of B.S.
How long until you can have sex again after childbirth? That is perhaps one of the most loaded questions that new parents face. Low libido is common in new parents, especially new mothers and especially in new working mothers, though you hear little about it. I co-parent a 5-year-old and work 40 hours a… Read More
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I’m Raising My Daughter Without The Gender Binary
When someone is pregnant, we usually ask them, “Is it a boy or a girl?” When I was pregnant, I asked myself the same question, and my sonogram confirmed it: there was a tiny vulva on the human growing inside me. But even though I knew I was having a girl, what did that actually… Read More
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Why I Want My Daughter To See Me Naked – Romper
I was giving my 5-year-old a bath in our tiny tub littered with toys when she started giving me an impromptu breast exam. “That nipple is longer,” she said, pointing at my breasts. I looked down to verify this new bit of information. I counted my nipple hairs: one, two, three, four. I lifted my… Read More
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No, My Child Does Not Have to Hug You: Why I’m Raising my Toddler to Understand Consent
Each year around Christmas, millions of Americans spend time with loved ones. We cook and drink and laugh and argue and drive to gather in the warm homes of folks that we call “Friends and Family.” Kids play and fight over toys and video-games. Adults cook and drink and argue politics in the kitchen and… Read More
