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My Partner Died By Suicide. Here’s How A Mismanaged Pandemic Contributed. – HuffPost
When a loved one dies by suicide, it’s common for mourners to blame other people or themselves, and struggle to understand “why they did it.” I don’t hypothesize the “whys” or “hows”: We talked many times about why life was painful for him, and he didn’t believe anything would change to allow for healing. Brian’s death… Read More
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Since the COVID 19 crisis started, my sex drive has been so low
Q: Since the COVID 19 crisis started, my sex drive has been so low. I want the connection but I don’t have the libido I did. How can my partner and I find intimacy and sexual connection when I just don’t want to have sex like I used to? A: Stress is one of the biggest… Read More
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I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone.
Q: I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone. It makes me uncomfortable to orgasm with my boyfriend. Like, totally out of control for my body and it makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable even though I feel 100% comfortable with him. Is that normal?… Read More
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My husband and I had an amazing sex life until we had our baby. Now I can’t orgasm.
Q: My husband and I had an amazing sex life until we had our baby. After she was born we both still wanted it, but it’s different now. It’s almost impossible for me to orgasm. It’s frustrating for both of us. I’ve been to the doctor. She says everything is fine. It’s been a year.… Read More
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My libido is dead and my partner still wants to f*ck – what now?
This is a very common question! When a relationship is fresh, people tend to have higher levels of excitement, and so it’s easier to cue up pleasure when you’re more receptive to it. As those excitement levels wane and the monotony of life or routine re-emerges, it is normal and common for libido to dampen.… Read More
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Just because she’s wet doesn’t mean she’s horny
Hey there, do you have a penis? Can you think of an occasion when your penis got hard and yet you weren’t aroused? Have you ever experienced “morning wood”? Or random erections due to nonsexual physical stimulation? You are not alone. Can you recall a situation where someone mistook your visible hardness as arousal? Was… Read More
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The 6-Week Green Light On Sex After Having A Baby Is A Bunch Of B.S.
How long until you can have sex again after childbirth? That is perhaps one of the most loaded questions that new parents face. Low libido is common in new parents, especially new mothers and especially in new working mothers, though you hear little about it. I co-parent a 5-year-old and work 40 hours a… Read More
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Expert Advice on Sex Drives, Online Flirting, and Bedroom Compatibility
Originally published 1/27/2016 on Thrillist.com What do you do when you have completely lost your sex drive? Oh boy, do I know this one. Firstly, ask yourself some basic questions: 1. Do I get enough exercise? The Center for Disease Control tells us that American, adult bodies require about 20 minutes of aerobic activity… Read More
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Expert Advice on Libidos, Clearing Your Mind, and Banging Your Ex’s Best Friend
How do you handle a relationship where your partner has a way higher sex drive than you? Before I address the question, I’d like to state that “sex drives” are not set in stone, but rather, can vary widely throughout a person’s life. Stress, living conditions, age, and, health are just a few factors that… Read More
