Articles
How to Save the Planet While You’re Having Sex
Earth Day is April 22nd. It’s a too-often-forgotten planetary holiday that we ought to be celebrating each and every time we hit the sheets — or the shower. No matter what your political leaning, we generally all want to save something: the Earth, resources, money… So why can’t we do all three by reducing, reusing,… Read More
Education, Interviews
Portland Detective Speaks on “Black Lives Matter”, Community Policing, and Human Trafficking vs. Prostitution
He’s white, he’s middle aged, and he’s a cop. I was fortunate to meet the affable Detective Brendan McGuire in a NE Portland coffee shop, on a sunny summer morning. It has been a longstanding belief that sex workers and law enforcement share some common parallels: Sex work and community-service/policing should be inherently nurturing,… Read More
Articles
The Ideal Sex Positions, Based on Your Size
Height, weight, mobility, genitals, gender: with so many variables, how does one avoid pain while optimizing pleasure? It’s frustrating when you can’t have the sex that you want, with someone you care for and are intensely attracted to, because your parts don’t match. There are lots of Internet listicles, click-bait quizzes, and astrology charts that… Read More
Articles
I’m a Sex Worker, and This is What I’ll tell my Child.
Hello Daughter. As I type this, you are in your bedroom, coloring and playing. You will be four years old on Wednesday. You asked to see my new shoes today. They were a gift from a customer. “Are those for dancing?” you asked. I smiled, “Yes.” “Are they for your work?” I paused. And smiled… Read More
Articles
The Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School
Originally published 3/2/2016 on Thrillist.com If you grew up as an American teenager, you may have been lucky enough to receive objective and informative education regarding sexual health and your changing body. Just kidding! Sex ed for most of us was comprised of a few color-the-genitalia-by-numbers pages, an awkwardly narrated slideshow, and a few low-budget… Read More
Articles
Sexual Mishaps That Could Only Happen in the 21st Century
Each generation experiences its own dating etiquette, social norms, and sexual deviances. But it stands to reason that millennials are the first to stumble through mishaps like lip rings caught in urethras, or catching your husband’s affair on social media. Millennial dating means that us 20- and 30-somethings have a slew of brave new ways… Read More
Articles
Expert Advice on Sex Drives, Online Flirting, and Bedroom Compatibility
Originally published 1/27/2016 on Thrillist.com What do you do when you have completely lost your sex drive? Oh boy, do I know this one. Firstly, ask yourself some basic questions: 1. Do I get enough exercise? The Center for Disease Control tells us that American, adult bodies require about 20 minutes of aerobic activity… Read More
Articles
What Stripping Has Taught Me About Dating Men
Originally published 1/9/2026 on Thrillist.com I’ve been a stripper for seven years. I’ve been married, I’ve been single, and I’m currently polyamorous. For most humans, having a conversation with a stranger is a daunting endeavor. That’s why blind dates, Tinder dates — any dates, really — are stressful: we’re looking to gather information about… Read More
Articles, Interviews
Strippers talk back to the hashtag #NotAStripper
Don’t forget it was strippers who invented pole dancing. As the art of pole dance has moved from the strip club stage to exercise studios and international competitions, “polers” have flooded social media with photos and videos of impressive, sometimes death-defying acrobatic tricks. But many in the pole dance world don’t appreciate its sex industry… Read More
Articles
Eat Your Way to Better Sex
Happy Holidays. Have you finally thrown out those congealed Thanksgiving leftovers? Did you pack yourself full of meats and breads and sauces, and are you ready to do it again? Good news, my intrepid, perverted eaters: we’re going to talk about cooking for healthy humping. We’ve all heard that bit about pineapple juice: it gives… Read More
