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Eat Your Way to Better Sex
Happy Holidays. Have you finally thrown out those congealed Thanksgiving leftovers? Did you pack yourself full of meats and breads and sauces, and are you ready to do it again? Good news, my intrepid, perverted eaters: we’re going to talk about cooking for healthy humping. We’ve all heard that bit about pineapple juice: it gives… Read More
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No, My Child Does Not Have to Hug You: Why I’m Raising my Toddler to Understand Consent
Each year around Christmas, millions of Americans spend time with loved ones. We cook and drink and laugh and argue and drive to gather in the warm homes of folks that we call “Friends and Family.” Kids play and fight over toys and video-games. Adults cook and drink and argue politics in the kitchen and… Read More
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Expert Advice on Libidos, Clearing Your Mind, and Banging Your Ex’s Best Friend
How do you handle a relationship where your partner has a way higher sex drive than you? Before I address the question, I’d like to state that “sex drives” are not set in stone, but rather, can vary widely throughout a person’s life. Stress, living conditions, age, and, health are just a few factors that… Read More
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Things Nobody Tells You Before You Start Having Sex
Originally published 10/27/2015 on Thrillist.com Ah, if only I had a time machine. I’d go back and warn Americans about the impending financial collapse, various environmental disasters, and the Kardashians. I’d also give my younger self some advice that I never learned in high school sex ed. These are the things nobody tells you before… Read More
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Slutwalk Portland 2015
Oh, the things I saw at Slutwalk, Portland. It is September 20th, 2015. It is noon on Sunday, and I’ve loaded up the vehicles of friends with the PA system that my daughter’s father has donated for the event. One of the men who I had fucked and befriended because of Tinder is… Read More
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How Communication Gets You the Great Sex You Deserve
By Elle Stanger Originally published 10/6/2015 on Thrillist.com I was nervous. My boyfriend of six months was staring me squarely in the face, chewing his lip. He looked terrified. He said he had something important to tell me. My heart sunk. What could it be? Did he have a family? A terminal illness? Was he… Read More
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The Fact and Fiction of Open Relationships – Thrillist.com
You’ve heard it before. The words and phrases have probably escaped your lips: “happily ever after,” “together forever,” “the one,” “soulmate.” Our culture raises people to expect a state of perpetually romantic monogamy from their partner. Maybe blame Disney. With slight, and very recent, exceptions, the tales always center on a conflict between a… Read More
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Oregon’s Stripper Lobby: Legislators Ask Exotic Dancers for Help With Strip Club Bill – Daily Beast
Oregon lobbyists are inviting exotic dancers to write their own labor legislation. Only in Portland. The rainy Northwest city not only brags of having more strip clubs per capita than any other place in the U.S., its booming adult entertainment industry has gone hipster. According to the Strip Club Guide released this summer by Portland’s… Read More
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What is Gamergate? – Misogyny in Gaming
It was Christmas afternoon in 1996. The adults were cooking and drinking upstairs, and the kids, myself included, were still in love with the plastic goodies we’d just earlier unwrapped. My prize for the holiday was a huge Hot Wheels racing track: multi levels, bright colors, trap doors, and zippy cars included. My cousins, sibling… Read More
